Marriage and divorce seems like something that everyone will experience in their lifetime. Unfortunately, many of us go into marriage thinking it will last forever. But when life throws in complications, we may soon realize that our relationship isn't going to make it and that divorce is inevitable.
Divorce for most people is an emotional and legal process and it's important for you to come to terms with both aspects of the process so you'll have an easier time navigating through it. Deciding on divorce is the easy part, but the process of it can be demanding, painful and full of complications.
Experts agree that managing the emotional and legal divorce separately may help you get through the divorce. The ideal divorce is one where you accept that the emotional and legal sides of the divorce are real and valid, that you both have to go through it together and that emotions and the legal process may come together at times.
The key is to keep the emotions out of the legal proceedings as much as possible otherwise you could increase legal costs, cause spur-of-the-moment decisions that you may regret later, and prolong the divorce process. Essentially, the hope is that the divorcing couple can come to agreements about shared assets, child custody, child support, visitation, etc.
Divorce can be emotionally and financially complex and only the advice of a family law attorney can help you navigate through these issues. Creating the life you want after divorce is what an attorney can help you figure out and achieve.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Can Divorce Really Be Smart?" Deborah Moskovitch, Feb. 3, 2012